The Bible says that marriage is to be between one man and one woman (1 Cor. 7:2).
Marriage was God’s plan to bring a man and a woman together for mutual love, benefit, and childbearing. Sexual gratification was one of those benefits, and sex outside of marriage is against God’s command. Marriage dates all the way back to the Garden of Eden: “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” (Gen. 2:18 NIV). After this, Scripture refers to Adam and Eve as husband and wife.
The first few chapters of Genesis tell us a lot about marriage. It was meant for male and female (Gen. 1:27); they were to help and support one another (Gen. 2:18); they were to enjoy the intimacy of sexual relations (Gen. 2:24); they were to have children and raise a family (Gen. 1:28). All these and many other things that constitute a marriage were meant to be a lifelong covenant: “Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” (Mark 10:9 NIV)
God created us with a sex drive, but satisfying that drive is to be confined to the covenant of marriage. Sex outside that covenant is considered sexual immorality. “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband” (1 Cor. 7:2 NIV). The words “his own wife” and“her own husband”tell us God’s intent for marriage to be between one man and one woman. There are scriptural accounts of men having more than one wife, and married men who sired children from female servants in their household, but this was not God’s original intent. Having a desire for sex is a natural feeling, but our passions can burn so hot that they cause ungodly behavior. That’s why Scripture says that “If they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” (1 Cor. 7:9 NIV)
Marriage is an honorable covenant that was not just for those who believe in God, but was meant for all of mankind across all cultures and races. “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” (Heb. 13:4 NIV). Entering into a marriage covenant requires great commitment to God first, and then from each individual to the other. It’s important to understand all that it will require, and the life changes that make a marriage work.
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